29 Things I've Learned at 29
Hey, y’all! Today I’m celebrating turning 29 and came across a past post I had done for year 26 where I shared 12 things I had learned about life up until that point. Three years later and I’ve had some more lessons so I wanted to share. I’m so grateful for these lessons and for this little space with all of you!
Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish
You do have time for it - you just aren’t prioritizing it.
It’s hard to make friends when you get older so meet up with old friends, say yes to meeting new people, and put yourself out there.
Stop being so self-critical. You’re the only person it impacts.
Failure is inevitable, try anyways.
Everyone deals with comparison no matter how happy they seem.
Be accountable. Don’t make excuses and move on.
If the door closes, there is something better coming. It wasn’t a rejection, but rather a redirection.
Do things on your own timeline.
Say no and don’t feel bad about it.
Surround yourself with who you want to become. You become the average of the 5 people you surround yourself with so choose wisely. Expand that group to those you don’t personally know like podcasts, music, movies, TedTalks, Masterclass, and those you follow on social media.
Ask the hard questions up front and don’t ignore red flags.
You never grow out of the feeling too young to be doing something.
You can do it all - just not at all the same time.
Take social media breaks every month.
People don’t give and receive love in the same way. Learn their love language.
You don’t get judged as often as you think you do. Honestly, they probably don’t even think about it.
Gratitude is the catalyst to being happy.
When you’re uncomfortable you should pay attention. You’re either growing, learning, or need to make adjustments.
Know your value and don’t diminish it for anything or anyone.
Never give up. You don’t want to give up on all that time you put into something. For example, you’ve been in business for 5 years and not finding the success you want. What if success came in 5 years and a day?
Wake up earlier. It isn’t fun for a while, but it’s worth it.
Marriage isn’t 50/50. Most days it’s 70/30, 15/85, or 45/55. Sometimes someone will need to give a little more, support more, or put in more effort.
Define and focus on your goals.
If you don’t like something, change it. Make decisions, ask for help, move to a new place, change your perspective, and adjust your behavior.
Silence is powerful.
Wounds don’t heal if you keep touching them.
The little moments can matter just as much as the big ones.
Optimize your time - it is the one thing in life you can’t get back.
